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Dear Mary,
Recently we adopted a 5-year-old male Yorkie from a local animal rescue foundation. He was a stud dog at a puppy mill and was not socialized at all. We adopted him to be my daughter's dog (she is 9), with the understanding that she will be in charge of the majority of his care (school and bedtimes permitting).
When we got Yoshie, he was very shy. Thanks to wacky schedules, initially I ended up spending more time with him than my daughter, and as a result, he is infatuated with me. However, he has no interest in anyone else in the house, including my daughter. When she tries to hold him, he scrambles to get away and has even growled at her. She's trying so hard to be patient, but this is breaking her heart. We would love suggestions for getting Yoshie more acclimated and bonded to my daughter. Right now she's in charge of feeding him both of his meals, she takes him out for almost all walks, she rewards him with tiny treats when he lets her pet him or approaches her, and she sits next to me when he is on my lap and pets him quietly and calmly. Do you have any other advice for us?
Thank you so much for reaching out to us on behalf of Yoshie. It's clear that you care about him and your daughter very much, but you do have a lot of work on your hands. A 5-year-old unsocialized former stud dog is a handful for experienced adult dog owners, not to mention a child. I don't advise families with children to take on a dog with serious behavioral issues, as the challenges and risks can be great, but I understand that you have a big heart and want to give Yoshi a loving home.





